KuresKouture Is A Dream Come True For Me–Fatima Kure

Fatima Kure is the CEO of KuresKouture in Abuja which. She  sells unique outfits ranging from Arabian gowns (Abayas) Kimonos, dresses for special occasions and lots more.

She is currently studying English at Kaduna State University. Her ultimate goal is to become a CNN reporter and successful entrepreneur.

TMG> Was there something special that made you go into selling outfits for women?

Fatima> I went into this business because I love the fashion world and dressing people up.

TMG> What sort of goods does your company sell?

Fatima> My company sells Abayas, Kimonos, Gowns , Dresses for pre-weddings.

TMG> Which areas do you need to improve on in your company?

Fatima> I need more workers to ease the job of being an entrepreneur, however, I can do other things myself.

TMG> What do you feel is the next step in developing your sales’ skills?

Fatima> The next step in developing my sales is Advertising and promotions to create awareness about KuresKouture. Basically, getting people to know more about my brand is all that matters for now.

TMG> What are some of the challenges you have faced in starting your company?

Fatima> One of the challenges is working alone while being at school. It’s not easy but I won’t give up. KuresKouture is a dream come true for me.

TMG> What motivates you most about the business?

Fatima> The fact that I want people to see more of my designs and appreciate my products.

TMG> How many employees report to you and how efficient are they? If you are alone how do you manage?

Fatima>  I have an assistant who is in control of my Instagram account which is where I get the most orders from.

TMG> In case of problems, how do you manage? Do you seek for help from another professional?

Fatima> Whenever I have any problems I sit and talk things out myself, but I haven’t sought for help thus far.

TMG> What do you do to stay educated about new trends?

Fatima> What I do to stay educated about new trends is look at what people want and what is in vogue. Then I make sure I give them what they seek for in order to make them patronize me more. I make sure I’m up to date in the fashion world.

TMG> Tell us about an accomplishment that you are most proud of in your career?

Fatima> One of the  accomplishments I’m really proud of was when I first launched my Kimono collection; it was a big hit, and I sold all my clothes within a week.

TMG> Tell us about your management style and how you handle your Customers?

Fatima> By being attentive. That way, I get to know how to handle my customers, what they like and want want in a dress.

TMG> What is your ultimate career aspiration?

Fatima> My ultimate career aspiration is to become a journalist and report for CNN.

TMG> How do you keep a smile on your face during a hard day to make sure your clients feel good?

Fatima> I always keep a simple face because it says in the Qu’ran ” Verily with hardship comes ease. Qur’an [94:6] “

TMG> How do you manage risks in terms of damages or loss?

Fatima> In terms of managing risks, firstly I try not to mess things up so I don’t have to manage any loss. I’m always careful with my products.

TMG> What way can you encourage youths not to depend on government for jobs but to be self dependent?

Fatima> There is a high rate of unemployment and if they have to wait for government jobs, it might take them forever. I would advise to start their own company slowly and gradually build it up.

TMG> Do you socialise and when?

Fatima> Yes, I socialize once in a while, because of my busy schedule.

INEC News Bulletin

2019 General Elections: INEC to register more Parties

 

The Chairman, Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC), Professor Mahmood Yakubu has expressed the possibility of registering more political parties before the 2019 General Elections.

The Chairman said INEC has received ‘’over 120 applications from political associations seeking registration as political parties’’, adding that ‘’already there are 46 registered political parties and recently a Court of Law ordered the Commission to register one more association as political party’’.

‘’obviously, by the time the Commission processes outstanding applications, the number of political parties will possibly increase’’, the Chairman said.

 

 

 

 INEC cautions on Election Violence    

 

As the 2019 General election draws nearer, election security and especially election violence might spike in certain parts of the Country.

This assertion was made during the two-day Retreat organized for newly appointed by Resident Electoral Commissioners (RECs) in Uyo, Akwa Ibom State.

‘’Closely related to the expansion of hotspots of conflict and violence, is the increasingly disturbing phenomenon of hate speech,’’ noted the Retreat and warned selves that ‘’it is important to have an accurate idea of possible locations of hotspots and peddlers of hate speech, discuss these with the security agencies and examine ways to address them well before elections’’.

The Retreat also noted the disturbing incidence of use of money to openly induce voters even on Election Day. ‘’our desire is to entrench a truly democratic system for all citizens and not a plutocracy open only to the rich. Violence, hate speech and inducement of voters are criminal activities punishable under our laws’’. The Retreat warned.  

The meeting also expressed concern over low turnout of voters during recent elections and insist on developing effective voter education strategies to galvanize voters to come out of vote for candidates of their choice on Election Day.

 

 

 

NBA RESTATES COMMITMENT TO CREDIBLE ELECTORAL PROCESS

 

The President of the Nigeria Bar Association (NBA), A. B. Mahmoud SAN, has assured the commitment of the Bar to support the conduct of free, fair and credible electoral process.

The President made the pledge during a two-day Retreat organized for newly appointed Resident Electoral Commissioners by INEC in Uyo, Akwa Ibom State.

A B Mahmoud who noted the pro-activeness of the Bar in monitoring and election observation also harped on the readiness of NBA to enhance the credibility of the electoral process.

 

 

 

CREDIBLE ELECTORAL PROCESS

 

The President of the Nigeria Bar Association (NBA), A. B. Mahmoud SAN, has assured the commitment of the Bar to support the conduct of free, fair and credible electoral process.

The President made the pledge during a two-day Retreat organized for newly appointed Resident Electoral Commissioners by INEC in Uyo, Akwa Ibom State.

A B Mahmoud who noted the pro-activeness of the Bar in monitoring and election observation also harped on the readiness of NBA to enhance the credibility of the electoral process.

2019 General Elections: INEC to register more Parties

The Chairman, Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC), Professor Mahmood Yakubu has expressed the possibility of registering more political parties before the 2019 General Elections.

The Chairman said INEC has received ‘’over 120 applications from political associations seeking registration as political parties’’, adding that ‘’already there are 46 registered political parties and recently a Court of Law ordered the Commission to register one more association as political party’’.

‘’obviously, by the time the Commission processes outstanding applications, the number of political parties will possibly increase’’, the Chairman said.

 

 

 

INEC cautions on Election Violence

 

As the 2019 General election draws nearer, election security and especially election violence might spike in certain parts of the Country.

This assertion was made during the two-day Retreat organized for newly appointed by Resident Electoral Commissioners (RECs) in Uyo, Akwa Ibom State.

‘’Closely related to the expansion of hotspots of conflict and violence, is the increasingly disturbing phenomenon of hate speech,’’ noted the Retreat and warned selves that ‘’it is important to have an accurate idea of possible locations of hotspots and peddlers of hate speech, discuss these with the security agencies and examine ways to address them well before elections’’.

The Retreat also noted the disturbing incidence of use of money to openly induce voters even on Election Day. ‘’our desire is to entrench a truly democratic system for all citizens and not a plutocracy open only to the rich. Violence, hate speech and inducement of voters are criminal activities punishable under our laws’’. The Retreat warned.  

The meeting also expressed concern over low turnout of voters during recent elections and insist on developing effective voter education strategies to galvanize voters to come out of vote for candidates of their choice on Election Day.

Relationship: The Power Of Attraction 

Attraction: The very word attracts. Why should it not?
  • Attraction is fantastically attractive. Especially when it is powerful and mutual. Attraction can provide a link to another human so irresistible that it feels like an enchantment, one that renders all other needs and duties oddly meaningless, tiresome and irrelevant.
Away from the object of desire, one is fretful and distracted, unable to eat, unable to sleep, unable to concentrate. All that matters is the next encounter, for with its consummation one will feel euphoric, blissful, thrumming with life and with tenderness. With that other person, one will feel that nothing is missing any more. Couples so drawn, talk of being two halves, complete only when they are together.
Who would refuse such luxury, such security and such communion? Who would not want to be so lucky? Anyway, isn’t that passionate compulsion practically useful? Doesn’t it encourage exclusive pair-bonding in humans, and foster the lovely notion that there’s a perfect soul mate somewhere in the world for everyone? Or is that feeling so preposterously wonderful that, really, there has to be a catch somewhere?
Attraction, after all, can be so overwhelming of the individual, and of the individual’s other necessary duties and relationships. All round the world, it has been considered dangerous and destabilising enough to be constrained as much as celebrated. The Greeks portrayed sexual attraction as a weapon, a dart that might pierce the flesh and possess a soul, causing chaos among humans and gods alike.
Examples;
Dante or Petrarch, courtly love was a kind of divine torture, with young men pining and fading for years at the sight of a chaperoned maiden who besotted them. And for the great literature of love Romeo and Juliet, Anna Karenina, Madame Bovary warns of the dangers of being driven by desire.
Another example is Wagner’s Tristan and Isolde, forbidden love leads to disaster and death. Except in this work, though, there is a sense that it was splendid, even sacred, nonetheless. Wagner contended that it was wrong, not right, to fight or fear erotic longing. His idea caught on, and plenty of people now subscribe to the belief that a truly significant passion should be gleefully accommodated, not resisted. Wagner’s vision can credibly be argued as one which helped to dismantle views about attraction, desire and love that had for thousands of years been forged in the Judeo-Christian tradition.
That, sensibility, warned against being carried away by sexual passion, and portrayed such unbiddable emotions as an unreliable foundation on which to build anything as fragile as love, or nurture any creatures as vulnerable as children. By the second half of the 20th century, though, this culture of restraint had been jettisoned, and replaced by the idea that self-denial was self-abnegation.
Now, in its general thrust, our culture is in love with the idea of love, awash with cock-eyed romanticism and unable to tell any more what’s attraction, what’s lust and what’s love. Puberty, and even childhood is suffused with a popular music soundtrack that peddles endless trite paeans to the central importance of modern romance. The most surprising of people want naff anthems celebrating some songwriter’s long-since ruined “true love” at their weddings. At some point, most teenage girls at least flirt with the idea of giving attraction a dry run by developing a crush on a pop star. Heaven knows what Wagner would make of it all.
On the whole, people don’t really like it when scientists tell them that attraction is all down to pheromones, or waist-to-hip proportion, or instinctive recognition of genetic differentiation. There’s disgruntlement as well, when churchmen tell us that togetherness is tough work involving ceaseless dollops of selflessness and commitment to the needs of others. We don’t like it when our mums tell us that it is not “real” because we have never met Frankie from Look We’re Boys. It’s love we want, because we want to believe that love conquers all.
It is considered a measure of the depth and the wonder of attraction, when a couple recognise a special bond from their first glance. Their eyes met across a crowded room. They fell in love at first sight. They knew they had found their soul mate. And so on. But really, it is not in the least surprising that many couples lay claim to such a moment of revelation.
The great thing about “love at first sight” is that it is retrospective. The exchange of a special look can be forgotten within moments if a seemingly perfect potential partner is exposed in a minute of conversation as a humourless bore, or a sleazy vulgarian, or merely myopic. But if the exchange of looks that register mutual interest is followed up by the discovery of easy conversation, shared humour, fascinating opinions, common enthusiasms, and a yearning to touch and be touched, then that first glance is remembered and treasured.
Even if the encounter goes nowhere even if one of the amazing things the two of you discover you have in common is a spouse at home looking after the children then that short time of togetherness can still be filed away as a beguiling monument to what might have been. And if the encounter does develop if sexual pairing is as intimate and intense as it promised to be, if care, commitment and domestic compatibility lead inexorably to the creation of one big happy family, then that first meeting becomes a talismanic opening to a family’s narrative of perfect togetherness.
But social science does, in its controlled experiments and clinical assessments, offer an alternative story of love. Humans, like all other animals, tend at times to be in search of a mate. At such times, each encounter, with anyone who might possibly be considered a candidate, is an audition. Without even being particularly aware of it, people tend to size up potential partners and even just potential friends all the time. Research has shown that people make complex judgements about others based on age, physical appearance, sartorial presentation, deportment, demeanour and social context in a matter of seconds rather than minutes after seeing or meeting them. Our own observation of the world around us confirms that such triage can be ruthless.
People who are physically beautiful tend immediately to dismiss those they consider less beautiful than they are. People who reckon themselves stylish are repelled by a fashion faux-pas. People who set store by their social standing will, at a glance, decide whether a person is likely to be as privileged as them, and edit out those who don’t measure up (so much so that they may find themselves unable to recall the colour of the hair of the waiter who served them all night, or notice that the same mini-cab driver picks them up all the time). When we are looking for a partner, we are auditing all the time. Once a target is so selected, the chances are that further investigation will indeed elicit mutual interest.
Despite all the myth and mystery the romance, if you will – that surrounds the process of human pairing, this, at bottom, is the essence of the matter. People tend to be attracted by people who find them or seem likely to find them attractive. The faces we like best are the faces that are looking our way. The eyes that we are mesmerised by are the eyes that are looking into ours.
The banal truth, around the world, is that couples tend to be homogeneous they choose (or in some cultures, have chosen for them) people who are at a similar level to them of attractiveness, or intelligence, or background, or economic power. When people step outside that convention, others are often distrustful of the couple in question and their motives.
A beautiful young woman, for example, may decide that she is not going to barter her beauty and youth in the sexual marketplace in order to snare someone who is as young and beautiful as she is. She may decide instead that she’ll cash in nature’s chips for old and rich. It’s a fair exchange between consenting adults, but one that’s seen as pretty risible.
We may be fascinated when people make truly surprising or weird love matches like the upper-class Englishwoman who marries a traditional Inuit and lives happily ever after. But mostly we are fairly disapproving when people break the unwritten rules of the mating game and use the advantage of their sexual attractiveness, or their money and power, to pull someone who is, in that telling phrase, “out of their league”.
So, can the ghastly truth be that those treasured coups de foudre – those towering edifices built on the magnetic rock of primal, perfect love, occur when a person instantly identifies, or thinks they identify, nothing more or less than a suitably flattering reflection of themselves? Can overwhelming attraction, whether or not it develops into anything that endures, actually be at root narcissistic?
Anecdotal reference to that heady feeling of novel attraction, enthusiastically returned, will confirm that along with the weak knees, fluttery tummies and bonkers attachment to the essential truth of the silliest song lyrics, a keenly enjoyable aspect of the matter is the bolstering of one’s own ego. Part of the joy of having that other person so intimately present in one’s life is firmly connected to the undeniable fact that they also make you feel just great about yourself.
The ruminations on attraction that have been offered since Wagner’s day by psychoanalysts and psychiatrists are often little more welcome than those of the scientists who say that your partner is not perfect for you because you mutually deserve such a marvellous mate, but because you just have smells that trigger each other’s hormones.
Freud placed the ability to form meaningful relationships with the opposite sex as the result of good parenting, and the inability to do so as a consequence of dysfunctional relationships between girls and their fathers or boys and their mothers. He also suggested that while a degree of narcissism was present in all humans, it was important to release self-love by giving love to another person, or else narcissism would grow unchecked and become destructive.
Jung went further, and suggested that what seemed like “love at first sight” was merely projection. People see their masculine animus or their feminine anima in a member of the opposite sex, and are attracted by what they recognise as the unconscious and hidden part of themselves. For Jung, it was important to understand that aspect of one’s psyche, so that one could stop projecting, grow up (or as he called it, individuate) and learn to engage with one’s anima or animus so that one could choose wisely and start forming adult relationships.
The inability to “individuate” was for Jung the reason why people sometimes found themselves trapped in a romantic groundhog day, choosing again and again similarly unsuitable or abusive partners, and falling into unreasoning obsessions ending in hurt and tears. Again, such an analysis is not always entirely welcome, and it does indeed seem like rather a con the idea that the “unlucky in love” ought to sign up with a Jungian analyst and work on getting to know and understand their hidden sexual archetype. Yet like many of Jung’s ideas and many of Freud’s it is hard to dismiss completely.
Anthony Storr, a renowned psychiatrist of a more practical bent, once remarked that if people could get a grip on their tendency to form neurotic attachments to those who displayed the most destructive traits of a parent, then his consulting rooms would be empty. Which, in the end, is another way of saying that whatever we might tell ourselves about coups de foudres and love at first sight and irresistible passion we fancy the people that our genes and our upbringing tell us to.
But where’s the romance in that?
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Things Women Do To Destroy Their Marriage

By, Deborah Demander 

Deborah is a writer, healer, and teacher. Her goal is to help people live their best lives everyday, while sharing her joy and love of life.

How we hurt our husbands: Creating a hostile environment can make everyone uncomfortable and destroy your marriage.

While both husband and wife should take responsibility for their part in a marriage, below are ten mistakes common to women, which can completely destroy a marriage. When women exercise the following behaviors, it can create a hostile environment, where no one feels safe or comfortable.

It is important to remember that the main goal of marriage should be peace and happiness. So, while this list below may seen daunting, always remember that. If life is stressful, then work on changing your perception. You can see peace instead of stress. You are only one thought away from a peaceful life. If you feel unhappy, seek the things that will fulfill you in life. Just be happy. The simplest route to something is to just be. The only person you can change is yourself.

1. Using words to hurt, maim and destroy your marriage

Although men are stronger physically, women have the advantage when it comes to verbal acumen. On average, women speak nearly three times more than men. The average female ends her day having spoken nearly 20,000 words, while her husband, boss, friend or partner has had his say with about 7,000. Women are talkers and have learned how to use words for the most effectiveness.

Women are adept at brandishing the sharpest words in order to shame, demean and belittle their man. Words are like toothpaste. Once they are out, there is no getting them back in. Regardless of how sorry you are afterward, the damage has been done. All the sorries in the world will never take back the sting of your angry words, once you have unleashed them on your hapless husband.

Rather than use your words as a weapon, use them as a healing balm to comfort, encourage and uplift your husband. And as grandma always used to say, “If you can’t say something nice, then don’t say anything at all.”

2. Having unrealistic expectations

Seeking fulfillment from one person, and projecting your unhappiness onto him when he doesn’t measure up will quickly destroy your marriage. If you feel unhappy, first examine reality. You will be happier if you shape your expectations to fit the reality of your situation. Expecting your spouse or children to make you happy is unrealistic. Make yourself happy.

Imagine if you could only have one friend for your entire life. Would that work for you? Most women have several friends, who fill several roles. We have a friend with whom we like to go shopping. One friend likes to work out with us. One friend leads a bible study. One friend loves to have coffee on Wednesday mornings.

Each person in your life fulfills a different and important role. None is more important, they are just different. If you expect your husband to complete you and bring you eternal happiness, not only are you setting him up for failure, but you are also setting yourself up for disappointment.

Rather than look to one person to fulfill your every need, try expanding your circle of influence, to include a variety of people, who fill your life with different blessings. And most of all, look to yourself. Find ways to feel complete and happy with who you are as a person. First, seek to find you own happiness, within yourself. And then, rather than look to someone else to complete you, find ways to complement each other’s lives.

3. Using sarcastic and critical statements, gestures, and facial expressions

This is a quick and easy way to show your husband that you don’t respect him or his opinion. Men can become overwhelmed by the barrage of criticism coming at them. The result is they shut down, withdraw, and seek kindness and approval elsewhere.

Have you ever experienced someone discounting what you have to say, without actually listening to you? When you are critical or sarcastic with your husband, he feels attacked and unvalued. Listen to him, without adding your two cents worth. If you’d like to ask questions, wait until he stops talking. Don’t interrupt with a story about how the dog threw-up on the carpet. Let him have a few minutes to be the center of your attention. And if you absolutely must get dinner made, invite him to join you in the kitchen. Tell him that you would like to hear about the rest of his day, and mean it.

Another way to show disrespect is to roll your eyes or make sarcastic facial expressions. These are just as irritating for your husband, as they are for you when your teen-aged daughter does it. There is no need to be rude, even if you’ve been married forever. It is more important to give him your attention, to look at him and to listen, than it is to roll your eyes or shake your head in exasperation. You are trying to build a bond, not destroy the man you love.

4. Criticize him, make fun of him and belittle him to your friends and family

When you criticize and belittle your husband, you not only diminish your husband in your eyes, but you also poison those closest to you. You force them to take sides, and of course they choose your side, because they want to be loyal to you. Your friends and family don’t live at your house. They don’t see what goes on day after day. They don’t see the good things your husband does. The only view they have of your husband is the one that you present to them. If you are constantly badmouthing and belittling him, then they will view him as a bad partner for you.

After you speak badly about him, they will never look at your husband the same. Even when you get over your tirade, and everything is great at home, they will still be mad at him. Your friends and family members want to protect you from danger and harm. If you are constantly referring to your husband in a negative light, then they will want to protect you and your children from this monster you married, even if he isn’t really a monster.

When you speak poorly of your spouse, your close friendships and relationships will remain irreparably altered against your husband, in time, this can destroy your marriage. He will never understand why your friends don’t like him, and why your mother is mean to him.

Rather than trying to make excuses, don’t start down that path. When you speak of your husband, use uplifting, encouraging words. If he is acting like a jerk, you don’t need to gush about it to everyone you know. Your constant complaints against him will create a wall between your husband and your friends, that he can never overcome.

5. Withhold affection and sex

This can cause a huge rift in your marriage, whether you realize it or not. Men are wired differently than women. Your husband needs physical release through sexual intimacy. It is not just something he is demanding of you, it is something he needs, physiologically speaking.

When you refuse to meet his need for physical release, you are making a much deeper statement; you do not care about or respect his needs. This is not about whether you like or dislike sex. It is much more important than that. Your spouse needs to connect with you on a physical level, whether you are in the mood or not.

As much as you need emotional release and closeness, he is wired to need physical release and closeness. Neither is wrong. You are just different. While you want your emotional needs met, it is important not to lose sight of his needs. Think of it this way; what if he stopped talking to you for three days? How about a week? What if he didn’t talk to you for an entire month? Unconscionable, right? Likewise, it is unfair for you to cut him off from what he needs. You are in a relationship with a man you love, and you expect your needs to be met. In the same way, you need to meet his needs, regardless of whether you share the same needs and desires.

6. Disrespecting his insight, opinions and advice

Men and women are different on many levels. Men are fixers. By nature, if you present a problem, he will come up with concrete steps to solve the problem. When you are dismissive, it sends the message that you do not value him. When you come to your husband with a problem or a concern, be ready for him to create an action plan to resolve your conflict. It may not be exactly what you would do, but he is offering a solution. The least you can do is listen to his suggestion, and thank him for his input. Before you reject his idea out of hand, take some time to consider what his opinion. Think about what he said. You don’t have to do everything he suggests, but listen and think about it.

If you just want to bitch and complain, call a girlfriend. Girlfriends are great listeners. They will not try to fix you. Women like to talk things out, without being fixed. Sometimes you just need an ear to listen, not a solution. When that is the case, perhaps your husband isn’t the person to approach.

If you must whine at your husband, tell him upfront that you don’t require a solution, just an ear to hear. He will still offer suggestions, but if you tell him, before you begin your rant, that you don’t need an answer, just to vent, then he won’t be offended when you don’t take his advice. And sometimes, you could surprise him and actually follow his advice. It might just work.

7. Undermining his authority, but demanding he take full responsibility

In any organization, there must be a leader, someone in charge. The head over the whole organization, who says, “The buck stops here.” Typically, the person who carries the responsibility ought to be the one who has the final say. Families and relationships are much like any other organization. There must be someone in charge, someone who will take full responsibility when things go wrong, and someone that everyone can turn to.

You, of course, are welcome to take that role, if you are willing to be fully responsible when the chips are down. It is easy to be critical of the person in charge, and it is easy to think that you could do a better job. The hard part comes when it is time to take responsibility. Rather than making decisions without regard for your husband’s input, and then blaming him when things don’t work out, try instead to work together. You can decide together how things should be done, and you can offer him the final say when decisions need to be made.

Don’t become so focused on your own feelings and fears (i.e. I’m afraid he’ll make a bad decision. I feel like I make better decisions) to override his feelings and fears (i.e. I am responsible to take care of the family. I’m afraid no one in the family respects me.) Be gracious in light of his decision making. You can respectfully disagree with a decision without attacking his ability to lead.

8. Never being happy

One of the quickest ways to destroy your marriage is to spend all your time acting miserable and unhappy. The goal of marriage should be peace and happiness. It is to this end that you have an obligation to be happy. If the goal is to be happily married, it is up to you to exercise self control. Only you can make yourself happy. If you believe that your happiness comes from other people or having things or external circumstances, then you will never be happy. You are in charge of your happiness. It is a decision. You can choose to be a miserable, unhappy grouch, or you can suck it up, pull your boots on and show up in your marriage as the person you’d like to be.

There is no need to express every angry, bitter or resentful thought. Everybody gets pissed off, frustrated and irritated. There isn’t anyone to blame. You are choosing to respond to your circumstances with that attitude. You can choose a different path. By owning your own problems, you can take responsibility for your own happiness. Each day, work on bringing your best self into the relationship. Regardless of what happens, you are only one thought away from peace.

9. Demoralizing him and crushing his spirit

If asked, most men believe their wives to be more moral and spiritual than themselves. Often, the wife agrees. She does not see herself as sinful or wrong. She feels her greatest “sins” lie in being deeply disappointed by her husband’s failures and her children’s shortcomings. Beyond this, wives typically admit to bad behavior and attitudes, but attribute it to hormones, chemical imbalances and a dysfunctional childhood.

Woe to the husband who dares suggest his lovely bride could use improvement in some aspect of her life. Labeled a heartless, uncaring, unrighteous lout, he is silenced by an angered, wounded wife, cloaked in self-righteous indignation. She then feels perfectly justified in attacking every flaw, magnifying every misstep and pointing out every failure, until he feels ashamed for living. You are not your husbands Holy Spirit. Stop trying to correct every little flaw you perceive in his character and set about removing the blinding plank from your own eye.

Of course, everyone makes mistakes. You can build him up or tear him down. The choice belongs entirely to you.

10. Picking the wrong man

You repeat the pattern again. And again. You meet a man. You like him. You start dating. Then you begin to notice the tiny flaws. The chinks in his armor. He yells, just like your dad did. He drinks and becomes abusive. He is mean to your kids. “It’s o.k., ” you tell yourself, “I’ll fix him after we get married.”

Stop right there. There is no fixing it. The man you date will be the same man after you are married. Inherently kind? He’ll still be kind. Addicted to pornography? He’ll still be addicted. You cannot change the basic nature of other people. You cannot love them into changing. You cannot nag or pout or complain them into changing. If the relationship feels unhealthy during dating, getting married will not fix it. He will not magically become more responsible, more reliable, or more loving after you marry him. So if you want a good husband, find a good man, date him, and marry him.

While this list may seem daunting, it is important to remember that the main goal of marriage should be peace and happiness. If life is stressful, work on changing your perception. You can see peace instead of stress. You are only one thought away from a peaceful life. If you feel unhappy, seek those thing that will fulfill you in life. Just be happy. The simplest route to something is to just be. The only person you can change is yourself.

Namaste Friends

This material is copyrighted by Deborah Demander

My Cooking Always Brings A Smile– Ogola Lois Kange 

Arc. Ogola Lois Kange holds a BSc, Msc in Architecture from the prestigious Ahmadu Bello University, Zaria. She is the CEO of SMILEY’Z MOBILE KITCHEN located in Kaduna State. She is actively involved in social enterprises and organizing events aimed at giving back to the society and empowering youth.

TMG> How did you make the transition from being an architect to becoming a chef?

Ogola> I have always had an adventurous palette. Growing up, my mother influenced my love for good health and tasty food; she had cook books and I’m always interested in trying out new meals. However, after completing my NYSC with high hopes of a good job or being retained as a lecturer in the department of Architecture ABU where I served, and that didn’t happen. I had God’s guidance leading me to start something which I’m glad I did.

TMG> Did you go to culinary school and what credentials did you earn?

Ogola> My culinary acumen comes from many experiments conducted in my mom’s kitchen and having my siblings and friends do the critique and later in my own home. You-tube videos, Google and Social media has also taught me a lot of ways to achieve even better results and perfect my culinary skills. I wouldn’t exactly describe myself as a chef though. I see myself as someone who is passionate about good food. I’m a registered architect and a Lecturer of Architecture, but I am still a very passionate entrepreneur who believes learning never ends.

TMG> How many employees report to you?

Ogola> Smiley’z Mobile Kitchen has had a consistent number of between 5-10 staff at any time since inception, with 80% of our staff being female. Since we are also actively involved in empowering women, we have had women come in at various times to learn some culinary or DIY skills. We have special programs where we also train up to a hundred pre-selected women monthly.  We are currently strategizing to see how we can have these programs consistently every month of the year, but because it is capital intensive, we are taking it one step at a time.

TMG> Who do you run to when you encounter any problem in your kitchen?

Ogola>  I must admit, prayer has been my force. GOD has been my stronghold, my peace in many storms and uncertainties. I also have my husband who has been a great support and counselor. My parents have also been a source of encouragement and support.  Friends and family has also helped in so many ways. I’m blessed to have the support system I have.

TMG> How involved are you in the beverage aspect?

Ogola>  For now, we only focus on local (or Nigerian) beverages like Kunu, Zobo, Ginger drink and the like. Beverage is still an aspect we are working on and trying to perfect because we see ourselves processing and exporting some of these local Beverages in the future. Hopefully, in the near future, we would be a leading brand in the production and distribution of scintillating beverages.

TMG> What is your favorite food to eat?

Ogola> I love local dishes; the aroma of those peppers and fried onions, crayfish, the Tiv “nune”, the assorted proteins and fresh vegetables…  I love food (laughs) so it is difficult to pick a single favorite, but one of my favorite meals has to be vegetable soup and pounded yam.

TMG> What is your favorite dish to cook and why?

Ogola> The leaf moi moi and Nigerian Jollof rice.

The intricacies of wrapping the beans batter in banana leaves, is quite interesting and the the outcome, which is usually so tasty, is very satisfying.

The Nigerian Jollof is a combination of local ingredients and fresh vegetables. What could be better when served with some peppered goat meat?

TMG> Give us an example of a Springtime menu you would prepare fast?

Ogola> Springrolls… The burst of flavours and fresh vegetables are priceless.

TMG> What do you do to stay educated about new trends?

Ogola> I had the privilege of being part of quite a number of Entrepreneurial programs, and I must say that interacting with other Entrepreneurs and the networking has opened me up to so many possibilities. The social media, not disregarding its own challenges, also has a lot of benefits and has played a role in helping me keep up with the trends.

TMG> What is the volume/revenue your establishment has gained in a year?

Ogola> Ranging between 3- 5million naira per annum presently, but growing!

TMG> What do you do to ensure the quality of the food going out to customers?

Ogola> Extra care is taken to wash vegetables bought from the market, raw food items are kept in sealed containers; Containers for freshly cooked food are properly washed and packed properly, our cooking environment is kept constantly and optimally clean. We have a culture of being particularly meticulous with hygiene and this is translated to all staff and anyone coming into our organization has to comply.

TMG> Tell us about an accomplishment that you are most proud of in your career.

Ogola> I would say I have two major accomplishments. Being able to complete my Professional practice exams and get licensed as an Architect (MNia) is one, and most recently, being selected as part of the YALI (Young African Leaders Initiative) Mandela Washington Fellowship is another accomplishment that has made a huge impact on my career. It has opened my mind to a wide range of possibilities, and fortified my network. Being able to inter-phase with young agile minds is inspiring.

TMG> Describe to us a problem you have had with an employee in the kitchen and how you handled it?

Ogola>  I had an issue with a cook who felt he was the cornerstone of my business; I always tried to make him understand that the success of the business was hinged on the contribution of each staff. There were several cautions and warnings issued to the staff even after he had violated his employment agreement. However, when it became obvious he was trying to frustrate the business, we had to let him go.

TMG> Tell us about your management style and how you handle your Customers?

Ogola>  We run an inclusive business; every member of our organization realizes that they have a stake in the business. I relate with staff in such a way that they can approach me comfortably and easily.

I try to have a one on one interaction with my customers. It helps me understand their needs and preferences and work with them accordingly.

TMG> Tell us 3 things that you consider to be your strengths as a Chef?

Ogola> Passion, Commitment, Resilience

TMG> Tell us something you would like to learn or improve upon as a Chef?

Ogola> I want to become a driving force when it comes to healthy lifestyle practice by promoting, producing and distributing healthy homemade style meals, especially among working class people. I aim at being a successful architect and Entrepreneur empowering women and youth through advocacy and mentorship. I am seizing every opportunity I get to acquire knowledge and immediately implementing it in my business and carrier. In 2016, I participated in the World Bank’s Women X Scholarship training program, where I went through a 6-month entrepreneurship training program and that was preceded by the Cherie Blaire’s foundation R2G (Road to women’s Business Growth) 12-week Program. This year, I participated in the Mandela Washington fellowship institute in the United states. I’m seizing every opportunity I get to learn and improve myself especially in the area of Entrepreneurship. I’m not aiming at becoming a “World Class Chef”(I’ll leave that for my staff), but I want to be a ‘world class Entrepreneur’ who will impact thousands if not millions- that’s where the magic is!

TMG> What other things do you do as a Chef?

Ogola> Asides the kitchen, I have the privilege of going to schools and higher institutions on invitation to talk to young people about the need to not only gain academic knowledge but also develop their God-given talents and passions to generate a livelihood eventually. By virtue of my Unique Career/professional path (Architect turned caterer, now entrepreneur and lecturer), I’ve had people wanting to hear my story and being inspired to get up and do something not just waiting for a government paid job. I am part of the Executives of the Mandela Washington fellowship alumni association of Nigeria (MWFAAN) I am actively involved in social Enterprises and organizing events aimed at giving back to the society and empowering youth.

TMG> Give us an example of someone you have trained or mentored. Where did they start and where are they now?

Ogola> There are quite a number but the one that quickly comes to mind is a lady named Joy, who worked and was tutored directly under me at SMK and now gone ahead to set up her own restaurant.

TMG> How do you resolve the menu development and overall design?

Ogola> Basically, we have experts on our team but we work with a nutritionist as well as our own secret recipes to produce an outstanding menu which we periodically review.

TMG> What are your challenges and how do you intend to handle them?

Ogola>  Keeping up with the very dynamic economical landscape of Nigeria has to be on the top burner. We have to know when there is a lot of money in circulation and people are likely to go out to buy more and of course when there is an economic meltdown and we in turn have to reduce production so as to decrease losses. Contrary to popular perception that people always make money in the food business, the food business is one of the few in which, if you don’t make money, you lose money. There is no sitting on the fence because you have to produce and once what you have produced is not sold, it becomes a loss. However, we have been able to mitigate against most of these challenges by being sensitive and listening to our clients. Power supply used to also be a challenge till we added a renewable energy option to our business, so we don’t suffer losses due to poor on grid power supply.

TMG> Who are your role models and what inspired you about them?

Ogola> My Mum is my number one role model, her hard work and resilience inspires me. There are also quite a number of successful entrepreneurs whose lives inspire me in one way or the other, so it’s quite difficult to pick just one. But for all of them some things stand out: God First, hard-work and resilience.

TMG> How do people react to your cooking and what do they think of you as a chef?

Ogola> Many people think it’s funny that I pick catering over Architecture, but I always tell them it’s not one over the other, I simply have the best of both worlds, but what matters most is that in the things I do, I’m touching lives positively. About their reaction to my food? Well, My cooking always brings a smile!

TMG> What way can you encourage other youths not to depend on government for jobs but to be self dependent?

Ogola> I’ve said before but it bears repeating, no one needs to wait for government or some white collar job, be innovative, be enterprising, use your God-given talents and start something.

TMG> Do you have time to socialise and how?

Ogola>I have a group of friends called the “Essential Five”, we spend time ‘gisting’ and that is how we all unwind and relax. We’ve been planning a get-away holiday which we will have soon (hopefully), but I’m more of a religious than a social person, so I spend most of my “off-work” time with other Christians in church.

INEC News Bulletin

2019 General Elections: INEC seeks closer collaboration with the CBN

 

The Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) has canvassed for the support of the Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) in the effective management of the electoral logistics involving the transportation and storage of sensitive election materials.

The Chairman INEC, Professor Mahmood Yakubu made the appeal during a visit to the CBN Governor, Godwin Emefeile, in Abuja, today.

Prof Mahmood who was accompanied by nine National Commissioners and the Secretary to the Commission commended the good efforts of the CBN for the timely production of sensitive election materials especially for the recent Anambra Governorship election and the Bye-election in Borno State.

The INEC Chairman further appreciated the efforts of the Bank at providing sufficient security for all sensitive election materials and also urged the Bank to support the Commission in the transportation of election materials.

Prof Yakubu who noted the huge volumes of un-used and obsolete election sensitive materials lying in different parts of the country also called on the CBN to assist the Commission with the incineration of such materials so as to provide space for storage of new ones.

Prof Mahmood who observed that, it was his first official visit to Bank also requested the Bank to partner with INEC in the handling of critical logistical challenges.

In his response the CBN Governor, expressed appreciation for the visit and pledged to support the Commission on identified focal areas.

 

……Electoral Logistics: INEC/ CBN Partners

The Independent National Electoral Commission and the Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) has raised a three-man Committee to work out modalities for collaboration on key aspects of election logistics management.

The Committee which comprise of 2 directors from the CBN and the Secretary to the Independent National Electoral Commission was expected to discuss ways towards effective printing, storage, transportation as well as disposal of obsolete sensitive election materials.

The Committee was raised at the instance of the two bodies when the Chairman INEC prof Mahmood Yakubu paid a courtesy visit to the CBN governor.

 

INEC FIXES DATE FOR A TARABA STATE CONSTITUENCY BYE-ELECTION  

The Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) has scheduled bye-election to fill the vacant seat in Ardo Kola State Constituency of Taraba State for Saturday, 13th January 2018.

The decision was contained in a Press Statement signed and issued, on Wednesday, 6th December 2017, by the Chairman of the Information and Voter Education Committee (IVEC), Prince Solomon A. Soyebi.

The vacancy was occasioned by the death of the Honourable member representing the Constituency in the Taraba State House of Assembly. 

According to the Timetable and Schedule of Activities for the election as released by the Commission, Political Party Primaries have been scheduled to hold from 9th to 6th December 2017 while campaign closes on January 11, 2018.

It would be recalled that the Commission had earlier scheduled the Anambra Central Senatorial Bye-Election for the same date, which implies that the Commission would be conducting two elections on the 13th of January 2018, one in Anambra for a senatorial district, the other in Ardo Kola for a state constituency.

 

Growing Up, Shoes Were A Luxury For My Siblings And I – Fauwaz Garba

Fashion designer, Fauwaz Garba is a graduate of the prestigious Ahmadu Bello University, Zaria, Kaduna State and Founder/CEO FGEES, a Fashion house based in Kaduna which came into existence in 2016. 

He talks to TMG about his brand.

TMG>> What does FGEES stand for and what do you do?

Fauwaz>> The name FGEES came from the CEO’s full name which is Fauwaz Garba. The company specializes majorly in high quality/elegant handmade shoes and clothing.

TMG>> How did it all start?

Fauwaz>> As a Fashion Designer based in Kaduna, I was fascinated by the exquisite shoes/clothing at an extraordinarily young age, and as that little boy, I dreamed of creating flawless masterpieces that would be worn by beautiful and important people from all walks of life.

TMG> How long did you nurse the dream of becoming a designer before it became a reality?

Fauwaz> The dream started when I was very young; it was always a passion of mine to be a Fashion Designer. 

Growing up, life was difficult & hard for my family in the country side of Kaduna State. Shoes were a luxury for my siblings; they only received one new pair in many holiday celebrations. That led me into fashion and I became a creative designer. 

TMG> What is your area of interest: designing, tailoring or both? 

Fauwaz> My area of interest is both designing and tailoring.

TMG> Did you go to a professional school to acquire the skills and knowledge needed?

Fauwaz> I did not have the chance to attend any professional school.  Let me say I was “self taught”.

TMG> What type of clients do you produce for – men/women; old/young? And are your designs Nigerian or Western?

Fauwaz> Our products are for everyone from men/women; old/young and the designs range from Nigerian and Western.

TMG> Who do you find easier to market your products to?

Fauwaz> Every age group, low or high income earners. There is always something to buy from FGEES.

TMG> Tell us about your very first design: What were people’s comments about it and how did it make you feel?

Fauwaz> I get very positive compliments about my products being cool or unique.

TMG>What inspires your designs?

Fauwaz> Our Nigerian culture and heritage.

TMG> What is your staff strength like?

Fauwaz> We have 8-10 staff working with us.

TMG> Give us an example of someone you have trained or mentored. Where did they start and where are they now?

Fauwaz> The Brand is still young, we are still nurturing/training/mentoring.

TMG> What challenges do you encounter and how do you handle them? 

Fauwaz> Some of our challenges include low patronage of our made in Nigeria products and also financial instability.

The journey has been tough, hectic, rough…but with hard work and determination to succeed, we were able to stabilize and cope with the market for now.

TMG> Tell us about your management style and how you handle your Customers?

Fauwaz> Our management style towards our customers is super effective, we make them feel like more than just customers. They are family immediately they make contact with us.

TMG> Tell us about an accomplishment that you are most proud of in your career?

Fauwaz> Participating/Attending events with some great Nigerian fashion designers, @gamji_pearls , @kaduna_food_and_fashion , @arewamarkethub @arewaaccess_connect @_greentrade , @kadunafashionwk , @thelabourroom e.t.c with people like MMK by Sahmien, Mercy Kanga, Hafmar Design By Susu, Tee Cakes & Bakes, Zholkha, Fruity Tango, e.t.c

The company aims to be among the top notch in the fashion industry in Kaduna State (North) and Nigeria in few years, hoping to help the government and society drastically reduce unemployment among our youth, and the economy in general. Currently, we have been assigned to train quite a number of our youths by some Government officials, which will begin anytime soon.

TMG> Tell us something you would like to learn or improve upon?  

Fauwaz>  Nothing special than for us to go and learn some latest techniques that will make our work much easier, also financial strength. 

TMG> What other back-of-the positions have you previously held before going into fashion?

Fauwaz>  I have not held any position before, but have been a serial entrepreneur before settling on this brand.

TMG> Who are your role models and what inspires you about them?

Fauwaz> There are a lot of them (role models) some are my close friends- Lerouge By Amma (Abuja), Maiatafo (Lagos).

TMG> What do you have to say to other youths to encourage them? 

Fauwaz> Advice to startup teens:

If you are passionate about any business, just start with the little you have, don’t wait for anything/anyone and I will be glad to tell you, in no time, people will start hearing about your quality goods and services.

 

The Corruption In Nigeria 

Theories abound for the different possible causes of the flagrant graft that exists in Nigeria. Some blame greed and ostentatious lifestyles as a potential root cause of corruption. To some, societies in love with ostentatious lifestyle may delve into corrupt practices to feed the lifestyle and also embrace a style of public sleaze and lack ofdecorum. The customs and attitudes of the society may also be a contributing factor. Gift giving as expressions of loyalty or tributes to traditional rulers may be fabrics of the society. Also, a political environment that excludes favors towards elites or wealthy citizens may also be influenced by corruption. Wealthy elites may resort to sleaze in order to gain power and protect their interest. However, the bottom line surmised from the views of most Nigerians is that corruption is a problem that has to be rooted out. In Nigeria another major cause of corruption is ethnicity called tribalism in Nigeria. Friends and kinsmen seeking favor from officials may impose difficult strains on the ethical disposition of the official. Many kinsmen may see a government official as holding necessary avenues for their personal survival or gain.
 
A culmination of use of official resources for private gain may lead to further pressures on incoming officials from other kinsmen. However, the fact is, the importation of modern rules on inter-ethnic political relationships is a recent colonial and western initiative that may take time to become the norm, deep allegiance to other ethnic groups for administrative decisions early on was sometimes viewed suspiciously, and an early institutionalization of a unitary system in the country, may also have led to a further familiar groupings induced corruption. Nevertheless, a modern practical approach to leadership and relationships has gradually taken a prominent role in the political process. The necessity for practical inter-depedence and cooperation is at the forefront of yearnings for good governance in the country.
Some analysts have also blamed colonialism for the amount corruption. According to this view, the nation’s colonial history may have restricted any early influence in an ethical revolution; “the trappings of flashy cars, houses and success of the colonists may influenced the poor to see the colonist as symbols of success and to emulate the colonists in different political ways”. Involvement in the agenda of colonial rule may also inhibit idealism in the early stage of the nascent nation’s development. A view commonly held during the colonial days was that the colonists property (cars, houses, farms etc.) is not “our” property. Thus vandalism and looting of public property was not seen as a crime against society. This view is what has degenerated into the more recent disregard for public property and lack of public trust and concern for public goods as a collective national property. According to PricewaterhouseCoopers, Nigeria’s economy would have a higher worth if its level of corruption were closer to Ghana’s.
Pre-Independence and the First Republic
Corruption, though prevalent, was kept at manageable levels during the First Republic. However, the cases of corruption during the period were sometimes clouded by political infighting.
Azikiwe was the first major political figure investigated for questionable practices. In 1944, a firm belonging to Azikiwe and family bought a Bank in Lagos. The bank was procured to strengthen local control of the financial industry. Albeit, a report about transactions carried out by the bank showed though Azikiwe had resigned as chairman of the bank, the current chairman was an agent of his. The report wrote that most of the paid-up capital of the African Continental Bank were from the Eastern Regional Financial Corporation.In western Nigeria, politician Adegoke Adelabu was investigated following charges of political corruption leveled against him by the opposition. The report led to demand for his resignation as district council head.In the Northern region, against the backdrop of corruption allegations leveled against some native authority officials in Bornu. The Northern Government enacted the Customary Presents order to forestall any further breach of regulations. Later on, it was the British administration that was accused of corrupt practices in the results of elections which enthroned a Fulani political leadership in Kano, reports later linking the British authorities to electoral irregularities were discovered.
Gowon Administration (August 1966 – July 1975)
Corruption for the most part of Yakubu Gowon’s administration was kept away from public view until 1975. However, informed officials voiced concerns. Critics said Gowon’s governors acted like lords overseeing their personal fiefdom. He was viewed as timid, faced with corrupt elements in his government.
In 1975, a corruption scandal surrounding the importation of cement engulfed many officials of the defense ministry and the central bank of Nigeria. Officials were later accused of falsifying ships manifestos and inflating the amount of cement to be purchased.
During the Gowon administration, two individuals from the middle belt of the country were accused of corruption. The Nigerian government controlled the newspapers, so the Daily Times and the New Nigerian gave great publicity to denunciations of the administration of Gomwalk, and Federal Commissioner Joseph Tarka by the two critics. A situation which may signal a cause for exigent action on corruption.
Murtala administration (1975 – February 1976)
In 1975, the administration of Murtala Mohammed made reformist changes. After a military coup brought it to power, the new government sacked a large number of prior government officials and civil servants, many of whom had been criticized for the misuse of power they wielded under the largely uneducated military of Gowon.
Obasanjo administration (February 1976 – September 1979)
The first administration of Olusegun Obasanjo was a continuation of the Muritala Mohammed administration, and was focused on completing the transition program to democracy, as well as implementing the national development plans. Major projects including building new refineries, pipelines, expanding the national shipping and airlines as well as hosting FESTAC was done during the administration. A number of these national projects were conduits to distribute favors and enrich connected politicians. The famous Afrobeat musician, Fela Kuti, sang variously about major scandals involving the international telecommunication firm ITT led by Chief MKO Abiola in Nigeria, which the then Head of State, Gen Olusegun Obasanjo was associated with. In addition to this, the Operation Feed the Nation Program, and the associated land grab under the Land Use Decree implemented by the then Head of State was used as conduits to reward cronies, and his now famous Otta Farm Nigeria (OFN) was supposedly a project borne out of this scandal.
Shagari Administration (October 1979 – December 1983)
Corruption was deemed pervasive during the administration of Shehu Shagari. A few federal buildings mysteriously caught fire after investigators started to probe the finances of the officials working in the buildings. In late 1985, investigations into the collapse of the defunct Johnson Mathey Bank of London shed light on some of the abuses carried on during the second republic. The bank acted as a conduit to transfer hard currency for some party members in Nigeria. A few leading officials and politicians had amassed large amounts of money. They sought to transfer the money out of the country with the help of Asian importers by issuing import licenses.
In 1981, a rice shortage led to accusations of corruption against the NPN government. Shortages and subsequent allegations were precipitated by protectionism. After its election the Nigerian government decided to protect local rice farmers from imported commodities. A licensing system was created to limit rice imports. However, accusations of favoritism and government-supported speculation were leveled against many officials.
Buhari Administration (December 1983 – August 1985)
In 1985, a cross section of politicians were convicted of corrupt practices under the government of General Muhammadu Buhari, but the administration itself was only involved in a few instances of lapsed ethical judgment. Some cite the suitcases scandal which also coincidentally involved then customs leader Atiku Abubakar, who later became Vice President in 1999, and was indicted for various acts of corruption. “The 53 suitcases saga arose in 1984 during the currency change exercise ordered by the Buhari junta when it ordered that every case arriving the country should be inspected irrespective of the status of the person behind such. The 53 suitcases were, however, ferried through the Murtala Muhammed Airport without a customs check by soldiers allegedly at the behest of Major Mustapha Jokolo, the then aide-de-camp to Gen. Buhari. Atiku was at that time the Area Comptroller of Customs in charge of the Murtala Muhammed Airport.”
Babangida Administration (August 1985 – August 1993)
The regime of general Ibrahim Babangida or IBB, has been seen as the body that legalized corruption. His administration refused to give account of the Gulf War windfall, which has been estimated to be $12.4 billion. He rigged the only successful election in the history of Nigeria in June 12, 1993 in a very exquisite mansion in his home state of Niger.
During IBB’s tenure, corruption became a policy of state. Vehicles and cash gifts were routinely disbursed to earn loyalty, and the discipline of the military force eroded. The term “IBB Boys” emerged, meaning fronts for the head of state in business realm, someone who will transact dirty deals from drug dealing to money laundering. The President was reportedly deeply involved in drug dealing through the first lady, Maryam Babangida, and Gloria Okon (his girlfriend). The near-revelation of that fact by Dele Giwa triggered the assassination of the journalist by the Presidential death squad using a letter bomb.
IBB used various government privatization initiatives to reward friends and cronies, which eventually gave rise to the current class ofnouveau riche in Nigeria. From banking to oil and import licenses, IBB used these favors to raise cash for himself and his family, and is regarded as one of the richest ex-rulers of Nigeria supposedly with significant investment in Globacom– one of the largest telecom operators in Nigeria, regarded as a front for his empire.
Abacha Administration (Nov 1993 – June 1998)
The death of the general Sani Abacha revealed the global nature ofgraft. French investigations of bribes paid to government officials to ease the award of a gas plant construction in Nigeria revealed the level of official graft in the country. The investigations led to the freezing of accounts containing about $100 million United States dollars.
In 2000, two years after his death, a Swiss banking commission report indicted Swiss banks for failing to follow compliance process when they allowed Abacha’s family and friends of access to his accounts and to deposit amounts totaling $600 million US dollars into them. The same year, a total of more than $1 billion US dollars were found in various accounts throughout Europe.
Abdusalami Administration (June 1998 – May 1999)
The government of Gen. Abdusalami was short and focused on transiting the country quickly to democracy. Albeit, suspicion remains that quite a huge of wealth was acquired by him and his inner circle in such short period, as he lives in quite exquisite mansion of his own adjacent IBB’s that exceeds whatever he might have earned in legitimate income. Indeed, the major Halliburton scandal implicated his administration, and this might have financed his opulence.
Obasanjo administration (May 1999 – May 2007)
Various corruption scandals broke out under Olusegun Obasanjo’s presidency, including one of international dimensions when his vice president was caught in cahoots with a US Congressman stashing cold hard cash (literally) in freezers. In addition to this, the KBR and Siemens bribery scandals broke out under his administration, which was serially investigated by the FBI and led to international indictments indicating high-level corruption in his administration. According to reports, “while Nigeria dithered, the United States Department of Justice on January 18, 2012 announced that a Japanese construction firm, Marubeni Corporation, agreed to pay a $54.6 million criminal penalty for allegedly bribing officials of the Nigerian government to facilitate the award of the $6 billion liquefied natural gas contract in Bonny, Nigeria to a multinational consortium, TSKJ”. They paid bribes to Nigerian government officials between 1995 and 2004, in violation of the United States Foreign Corrupt Practices Act.
Some other acts of corruption tied to Olusegun Obasanjo included the Transcorp shares scandal that violated the code of conduct standards for public officers, and the presidential library donations at the eve of his exit from power that pressured associates to donate. Obasanjo was also said to widely lobby for his failed campaign to alter the constitution to get a third term by actively bribing the legislators. further deepening corruption at the highest levels.
Umaru Musa Yar’Adua administration (May 2007 –May 2010)
Yaradua’s ascent and time in office was short, although a fair number of corruption scandals from previous administrations came to light under his tenure and went uninvestigated due to lack of political will and poor health. Yaradua’s various acts of political corruption using his Attorney-General to frustrate ongoing local and international investigations of his powerful friends like Governor Ibori, Igbinnedion and Odili which led to massive losses to their states. Indeed, AG Aondakaa was legendary in his inability to obtain conviction in Nigeria even as UK and foreign courts successfully tried Nigeria’s deeply corrupt governors from the Obasanjo era that helped Yaradua emerge as president. In addition, Wikileaks revealed that the Supreme Court Justices were bribed to legitimize the corrupt elections that saw to his emergence as president through massive rigging. Wikileaks documents also revealed the staying power of corruption under Yaradua, with illegal payments from NNPC to Presidents continuing unabated.
Goodluck Jonathan administration (2010–2015)
In 2014, Nigeria’s rank improved from 143rd to the 136th position onTransparency International’s Corruption Perceptions Index. In late 2013, Nigeria’s then Central Bank governor Sanusi Lamido Sanusiinformed President Goodluck Jonathan that the state oil company,NNPC, had failed to remit US$20 billion in oil revenues owed to the state. Jonathan however dismissed the claim and replaced Sanusi for his mismanagement of the central bank’s budget. A Senate committee also found Sanusi’s account to be lacking in substance. After the conclusion of the NNPC’s account audit, it was announced in January 2015 that NNPC’s non-remitted revenue is actually US$1.48 billion, which it needs to refund to the government. Upon release of both the PwC and Deloitte report by the government at the eve of its exit, it was however determined that truly close to $20 billion was indeed missing or misappropriated or spent without appropriation.
In addition to these, the government of Goodluck Jonathan had several running scandals including the BMW purchase by his Aviation Minister, $250 million plus security contracts to militants in the Niger Delta, massive corruption and kickbacks in the Ministry of Petroleum, the Malibu Oil International scandal, and several scandals involving the Petroleum Ministry including accusations of sweetheart deals with select fronts and business people to divert public wealth. In the dying days of Goodluck Jonathan’s administration, the Central Bank scandal of cash tripping of mutilated notes also broke out, where it was revealed that in a four-day period, 8 billion naira was stolen directly by low-level workers in the CBN. This revelation excluded a crime that is suspected to have gone on for years and went undetected until revealed by whistle-blower. The Central Bank claim the heist undermined its monetary policy. In 2014, UNODC began an initiative to help combat corruption in Nigeria.
New allegations of corruption have begun to emerge since the departure of President Jonathan on May 29, 2015, including:
$2.2 billion illegally withdrawn from Excess Crude Oil Accounts, of which $1 billion supposedly approved by President Jonathan to fund his reelection campaign without the knowledge of the National Economic Council made up of state governors and the president and vice president.NEITI discovered $11.6 billion was missing from Nigeria LNG Company dividend payments.60 million barrels of oil valued at $13.7 billion was stolen under the watch of the national oil company, Nigerian National Petroleum Corporation, from 2009 to 2012.NEITI indicates losses due to crude swaps due to subsidy and domestic crude allocation from 2005 to 2012 indicated that $11.63 billion had been paid to the NNPC but that “there is no evidence of the money being remitted to the federation account”.Diversion of 60% of $1 billion foreign loans obtained from the Chinese by the Ministry of Finance Massive scam in weapons and defense procurements, and misuse of 3 trillion naira defense budget since 2011 under the guise of fighting Boko Haram
7. Diversion of $2.2 million vaccination medicine fund, by Ministry of Health
8. Diversion of Ebola fight fund up to 1.9 bn naira
9. NIMASA fraud under investigation by EFCC, inclusive of accusation of funding PDP and buying a small piece of land for 13 billion naira
10. Ministry of Finance led by Okonjo Iweala hurried payment of $2.2 million to health ministry contractor in disputed invoices
11. NDDC scams and multifarious scams including 2.7 billion naira worth of contracts that does not confirm to the Public Procurement Act
12. Police Service Commission Scam investigated by ICPC that revealed misappropriation of over 150 million naira related to election related trainings. ICPC made refund recommendations, but many analyst indicated prosecution was more appropriate.
Public institutions perceived as corrupt
The following list contains the institutions perceived as the most corrupt. It is culled from the Nigeria Survey and Corruption Survey Study, Final Report (June 2003) Institute for Development Research,Ahmadu Bello University, Zaria (IDR, ABU Zaria)
Nigeria (as of 2003)Rating institution 
1 Nigerian Police
2 Political Parties
3 National and State Assemblies
4 Local and Municipal Governments
5 Federal and State Executive Council
6 Traffic police and FRSC
7 PHCN
8 NNPC
9 Nigeria Customs
10 FIRS
 
PMB on corruption
Political corruption is a persistent phenomenon in Nigeria. President Muhammadu Buhari defined corruption as the greatest form of human right violation. Since the creation of modern public administration in the country, there have been cases of official misuse of funds and resources. The rise of public administration and the discovery of oiland natural gas are two major events seen to have led to the increase in corrupt practices in the country.
The government has tried to contain corruption through the enactment of laws and the enforcement of integrity systems, but success has been slow in coming. In 2012, Nigeria was estimated to have lost over $400 billion to corruption since independence.
Anyway, Nigerians are still waiting to see the level of corruption in Buharis regime from 2015 to 2019.
Some Nigerians believe most of politicians that were being accused in the past governments are also part of the present government.
The questions now is, how will Buharis government justify the corruption allegations level on some key players in his government?
Therefore, is Buharis government really fighting corruption?
More Details >> https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Corruption_in_Nigeria

November 2017; INEC News Bulletin

CVR: STATES TO GET 10 ADDITIONAL REGISTRATION CENTRES

 The Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC), has approved 10 additional Continuous Voter Registration (CVR) centres for each of the 36 states of the federation and the Federal Capital Territory (FCT). 

The Creation of these registration centres bring to total, 672 additional centres across the federation since the commencement of the exercise in April this year. 

The decision by the Commission to increase the Registration centres was born out of the desire to ensure every eligible citizen gets registered in the on-going CVR exercise ahead of the 2019 general elections.  

It would be recalled that INEC, on the 27th of April, 2017 commenced the CVR exercise as envisaged in the Electoral Act (2010 as amended). The exercise is currently in its third quarter. 

 

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INEC CHAIRMAN SEEKS GREATER PARTNERSHIP WITH ICMC 

Chairman of the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC), Professor Mahmood Yakubu has commended the Institute of Chartered Mediators and Conciliators (ICMC) for its partnership in the deployment of Electoral Alternative Dispute Resolution (EADR) in resolving electoral disputes and called for greater partnership going forward. 

The INEC Chairman gave the commendation at the Annual Conference & Induction Ceremony of ICMC, held in Abuja, Yesterday.

The INEC Chairman who was represented by National Commissioner, Dr. Adekunle Ogunmola, noted that the introduction of EADR through several interventions such as trainings, mediations exercise and sensitization of electoral/political stakeholders had greatly helped in reducing cases of litigations in the electoral cycle.

Professor Yakubu expressed optimism that with greater partnership with the ICMC, there would be more awareness on the use of ADR in resolving electoral disputes. 

In recognition of his believe and deployment of Alternative Dispute Resolution, the INEC Chairman was conferred with Honorary Fellow of the Institute of Chartered Mediators and Conciliators.  

The Commission had in the past, through its ADR Directorate, deployed the EADR tool in resolving electoral disputes in different states.

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ANAMBRA CENTRAL SENATORIAL DISRICT ELECTION HOLDJANUARY 18, NEXT YEAR

The Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) has fixed the Anambra Central Senatorial District election for January 18, 2017.

This was contained in a press statement issued by the Commission and signed by National Commissioner and Member of the Information and Voter Education Committee (IVEC), Mohammed Kudu Haruna.

The statement explained that the decision was taken following the determination of the case involving the matter by an Appeal Court sitting in Abuja which ordered   ‘’INEC to conduct the re-run election within 90 days of the judgment’’.  With this judgment ‘’all encumbrances to the conduct of the re-run election have now been removed. Consequently, there is presently no court order restraining INEC from conducting the election ‘’, the statement added.

In fixing the date, the INEC said, ‘’all the circumstances surrounding the election particularly the 90-day timeframe ordered by the Court of Appeal, the demands for preparing adequately for the election as well as the coming Yuletide ‘’ have been taken into account.

The Commission thank the people of the Constituency as well as all stakeholders for their patience adding that ‘’the delay has served to clarify some grey areas in the electoral process to make it stronger, freer and more credible’’.

 

Below is the full text of the statement:

PRESS STATEMENT ON THE VACANT SEAT OF THE ANAMBRA CENTRAL SENATORIAL DISTRICT

The Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) met today for its 41st ordinary meeting of 2017 and considered among other things, the case of the outstanding election to fill the seat for the Anambra Central Senatorial District. It would be recalled that the 2015 election to fill the seat was nullified by the Election Tribunal. Since then, there have been several court cases on the matter.

On Monday 20th November, 2017, the Court of Appeal sitting in Abuja delivered a judgment in which it ordered INEC to conduct the rerun election within 90 days of the judgment. Following the determination of this case, INEC has decided that all encumbrances to the conduct of the re-run election have now been removed. Consequently, there is presently no court order restraining INEC from conducting the election.

The Commission has considered all the circumstances surrounding the election particularly the 90-day timeframe ordered by the court of Appeal, the demands for preparing adequately for the election as well as the coming yuletide and decided that the re-run election shall take place on Saturday 13th January 2018.

The Commission thanks all stakeholders, particularly the people of Anambra Central Senatorial District for their patience. We hope that the delay has served to clarify some grey areas in our electoral process to make it stronger, freer, fairer and more credible.

 

Mohammed Kudu Haruna

National Commissioner and Member Information and Voter Education Committee (IVEC)

 

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ANAMBRA GUBER: DON’T INDUCE MY STAFF, Yakubu tells candidates, parties

The Chairman Independent Nationa Electoral Commission (INEC) Professor Mahmood Yakubu has urged Candidates and Parties contesting in the November 18, 2017 Anambra Governorship Election to avoid any form of inducement to influence poll officials.

Prof Yakubu said INEC was committed to ensuring free, fair and credible exercise that reflects only the wishes and aspirations of the people of Anambra State.

The Chairman INEC who made the statement in Awka, Anambra State during a stakeholder meeting had earlier read a riot act to INEC Anambra state office, warning them against any act of complaisance capable of compromising the credibility of the elections.

It would be recalled that the INEC Chair has on several occasions emphasized the commitment of INEC to upholding the guiding principles of neutrality, transparency and accountability on all electoral processes and to all parties and candidates elections.

He however, called on voters in Anambra State to ensure that they hold strongly to their Permanent Voter Cards (PVCs) and present same at their respective polling units to enable them vote.

Prof Yakubu explained that the law and procedures for election recognizes only persons who present their present their PVCs at the polling units; and therefore urged prospective voters in the election to visit their polling units with their PVCs on the Election Day. ‘No PVC; No Voting’, he added.

The INEC Chairman noted the current peaceful atmosphere in Anambra State and urged all stakeholders to contribute to its sustenance beyond the election.

In his remark, the Inspector-General of Police Ibrahim Idris, has assured citizens of Anambra State of adequate security during the exercise and advised them to share information with the police on any threat to breach the peace.

Earlier in his address, the National Commissioner in-charge of Anambra State Prof Okechukwu Ibeanu commended candidates and parties in the election for the civility they demonstrated so far, describing it as the right step to heal after elections.

The Resident Electoral Commissioner (REC), Anambra State, Dr Nkwachukwu Orji, spoke on the voting procedures for the election saying ‘the election procedure, accreditation and voting will take place between 8am and 2pm in all polling units. Voters in the queue at 2pm will be allowed to complete accreditation and voting.

‘Votes will be counted, results announced and published immediately after the election at the polling units’, he added.  

 

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YOUR VOTES WILL SURELY COUNT– INEC

The Chairman, Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) Professor Mahmood Yakubu has reassured voters in Anambra State that their votes will surely count in the upcoming Governorship Election in the State.

Prof Yakubu made the statement while addressing stakeholders’ meeting in Awka ahead of the November 18 Governorship Election in the State.

The INEC Chairman also restated the commitment of INEC to providing a level playing ground to all candidates and parties contesting in the election. ‘All Candidates and Parties have equal status’, he said.

‘The decision on who becomes the Governor of Anambra State rests with the people of the State’, Yakubu explained.

INEC ‘shall uphold the choice of the people without favour or ill will. INEC is neither for, nor against, any political party or candidate. INEC has no candidate’, he emphasized. 

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INSINUATION OF SENSITIVE MATERIALS FOUND IN A HOTEL IN AWKA: UNTRUE – INEC

The Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) has described the recent insinuations that election materials were found in a hotel in Awka as fake, unfounded and untrue.

Refuting the allegation during a stakeholder meeting in Awka, Anambra State, the Chairman INEC, Prof Mahmood Yakubu said the ‘the Commission is aware of insinuations in certain quarters that sensitive materials for the elections have been delivered to Anambra State and compromised. This is untrue’.

Prof Yakubu who apparently indicated that no sensitive election material was in Awka at the time the rumour was renting the air, said ‘I wish to assure stakeholders that election materials are arriving Awka in strict compliance with the logistics arrangement for their delivery for elections. These materials will remain in the custody of the Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) with all the security and protection accorded our national currency.

‘The processes of taking delivery of the materials from the CBN and distribution to the Local Governments, Registration Areas (Wards) down to the Polling Units will be done openly and transparently involving the oversight of all stakeholders’, he added.

Speaking further, the INEC Chairman hinted that the security features on the sensitive materials have been enhanced to prevent counterfeit.

 A Thorny Road of Roses

No, Not Slavery – By, U.K. Umar 

“Baba, see wetin dem dey do Nigerians for Libya”. Baba collects the phone, watches the videos, cringes and twists his face in a way and remarks “Dis peepu wicked o, but d Nigerians, who send dem go dia?” “Ah ah, see dis Baba o, who send you come Abuja from Okene?” Baba, a bit taken aback “Which kind question be dat? Anywhere for dis country is my home. Nobody can do dis kind tin to me in Nigeria!” Baba looks towards me in search of support “Abi Oga Usman I lie?” “You are very correct Baba, this is your country and you are free anywhere within it to do any kind of lawful business.” Baba was satisfied and he didn’t hide it.

 

This happened in my office between two office drivers; one is elderly (Baba) while the owner of the phone is a much younger person. I had already started working on this piece when this scene took place.

 

What is going on in Libya is not a war! It’s not even terrorism and yes, it’s not slavery! It is an avoidable human tragedy. What you might call ‘ugly consequences of wrong choices.’ And this is not an attempt to blame the victims. Alone.

 

It is permissible to yield to our sympathetic nature and feel sorry for people we see in difficulties. We can’t help it; it’s in us. Even a known, captured killer about to be given a taste of his own medicine by the law would garner sympathisers once he/she is tied to the pole and is about to be fired.

Consequently, there’s been an outpour of sympathy and divergent opinions on the plight of Nigerians in particular, caught in the ongoing tragedy in Libya.

 

Several weeks before the story of “slavery in Libya” broke especially in the social media, I had read in the papers, accounts by ‘victims’ who had survived the perilous journey to Europe through Libya or Morocco by way of returning home. Before then,I had watched on CGTN, an exclusive interview with the Moroccan Ambassador to China, where he gave insights into African migration crises through Morocco, Libya and the Mediterranean sea. Even by the Ambassador’s ‘diplomatic’ accounts, it was clear that we have a serious issue at hand that needs serious, urgent attention from all concerned.

There are a number of angles but let’s dwell on two. On one hand, you have a high, complex network of human traffickers who are luring and sometimes forcing their victims to Europe through Morocco or Libya. These are gangs of highly connected individuals who have contacts here at home and in the countries along the routes of their human cargoes. They have different methods of getting their victims or their parents to buy their promises of instant good life in Europe. Some of their victims are coerced by their parents to follow the traffickers. These group of people also traffick kidnapped persons through this perilous route where the victims end up as money making machines for them if they (the victims) make it through the scorching desert and unforgiving sea. On the other hand, there are the willing migrants who on their own, hope to make it to Europe through the now dangerous routes of Libya or Morocco through the Mediterranean. These are mostly young men and women who are well aware of the odds but are willing to go through it anyway. To prepare for the journey, they gather close to half a million Naira, visit marabouts, mallams and pastors for ‘good luck’ and protection. In their minds are ambitious dreams of landing Europe to just make it. Most of them have no clear cut idea of what they are going there to do neither are they prepared for anything. Their ambition is their only motivation. As they say “any way which way, Europe here we come.”

 

These two angles make the case for the ‘push’ or ‘pull’ positions of the raging migration debate.

There are people who argue that due to the pervasive bad governance in most African countries, widespread, biting poverty and the need to breakaway from it, people are being pushed to undertake the risky journey to Europe through the Mediterranean. Still, there are those who argue that no, in spite of the abysmal governance and wanton corruption in most African countries, opportunities still abound for those who are determined to make life worth living for themselves. They argue further that the choice to willingly undertake such dangerous routes to Europe is born purely out of greed hence, the victims are ‘pulled’ by their inordinate desire for quick, better life that Europe promises from afar. For me, unless you are a victim of forced trafficking or an unsuspecting minor, your victimhood in the hands of the so-called slave traders is self-inlicted. You are the one Baba’s question is directed to – “who send you there?”

 

There are commentators who are looking at the issue from the view point of racism. Well, that’s worth looking at but I believe we can also agree that a racist Libyan stands a lot more ground in his own country than here in Nigeria or anywhere else.

 

The Mediterranean sea has for long being in the news for claiming lives of African illegal migrants but not enough attention, especially by the governments of concerned African countries, has been paid to the matter until recently. Several international media organizations including BBC,Aljazeera, CNN and CGTN have done documentaries and reports on the perilous journey through the dangerous routes by African migrants. Even the regional body, African Union that should be the strlong platform to discuss and halt these self-inflicted tragic incidents appears to be more of a toothless bulldog.

 

It took a recent documentary by CNN featuring amateur video clips and pictures of illegal migrants being tortured, killed and auctioned to draw the world’s attention to the acts of man’s inhumanity to fellow man going on in Libya.

 

Thankfully, governments, individuals and NGOs are making frantic efforts to rescue the victims back to their home countries.

Rescuing victims and bringing them back home is akin to treating symptoms of a deadly disease. While the patient get relieved of the aches for a while, the root cause is still there. Once the conditions are right again, the disease returns.

 

The malaise of human trafficking in all forms, especially in Nigeria needs more than the type of passive attention it is receiving. Trafficking networks are increasing and getting stronger by the day. They have collaborators spread across the strata of our societies including the security agencies in countries. It is big business second only to illicit drugs.

 

What makes the whole matter a lot more complex is the fact that even parents and guardians of minors are deeply involved. For instance, the scourge of using underaged girls and boys as maids which in itself is a tacit legitimisation of trafficking has come to be accepted as ‘normal’. Parents send away their school-aged children into homes of total strangers to serve them. In return, they get paid peanuts. Most of these children end up toiling away their precious childhoods without any proper foundation for the life ahead. If this is not slavery in itself, I wonder what it is. There are very few maid owners who take care of their maids as they do their own children, kudos to them.

 

Parents have significant roles to play. You can’t just give birth to children and not carter for their welfare. Children must be allowed to be children when they are children. Sending your child who is supposed to be in school to go and serve others as maids is akin to slavery. Period!

 

Parents who “arrange”  their daughters to travel to different parts of Europe, Middle East and Asia for the purpose of prostitution are worst of them all. Governments of concerned countries must strengthen the legislations and other frameworks in their countries to promptly trace, arrest and prosecute such parents or guardians.

 

The AU as a body must rise to the occasion. Part of the root causes of these ugly pictures coming from Libya are well entrenched in the inability of African leaders to provide Africans with a sense of hope and pride in their respective countries. More than five decades after independence of most African countries, there is not a single one that inspires the rest towards building functional societies where things work. Of course, Africa has produced leaders who at different times under different circumstances were able to make remarkable impacts on the sands of governance. Unfortunately, most of them were either gruesomely murdered or the few who survived had their legacies utterly destroyed by their successors who took their countries decades behind.

 

Let the positive takeaway from these unfortunate incidents be that someone from among African leaders resolve to build a model society in Africa where things work. Incidentally, at a time, the same Libya now in the news for the very wrong reasons, under its murdered leader Moammar Gaddafi, had some semblance of a functional society. This, of course, is arguable if weighed against the tenets of the Western version of democracy.

To the young Africans determined to make it to Europe through whatever means at all cost, it’s daybreak already. The pastures are greener here. Stay here and be king with your poverty than go through hell to be slave with tall, rich ambitions. You are better alive. Make the right choice.